Podcast: “Lies My Therapist Told Me”
Welcome to "Lies My Therapist Told Me", the podcast where we bust the myths and oversimplified advice that often get thrown around in the therapy world. Hosted by two therapist besties, Maddy and Katie, we dive into the advice you’ve heard like, “just set a boundary” or “have you tried breathing?” and get real about what works and what doesn’t. Tune in as we debunk the therapeutic clichés and explore the complexities of mental health, relationships, and healing with humor, honesty, and plenty of therapy-talk to go around.
Episode:
Lie: You Need to Love Yourself Before You Can Love Someone Else
In this episode of Lies My Therapist Told Me, therapists (and friends) Maddy & Katie unpack the ever-popular cliché: “You have to love yourself before you can love someone else.” We dig into why this idea can be confusing at best—and harmful at worst. What does “loving yourself” even mean? And how realistic is it to expect to be “fully healed” before stepping into a relationship?
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Lie: Healthy Relationships Never Struggle With Control
Control is often painted as one of the biggest relationship red flags—but what if it’s sometimes more complex than that? In this episode, we unpack how control can actually be a reaction to fear, insecurity, or anxious attachment rather than pure manipulation. While some forms of control are indeed abusive and deeply harmful, others might be signals of distress within the relationship ecosystem itself. We explore how curiosity, compassion, and couples therapy can help partners look beneath the surface of “clingy” or controlling behaviors to understand what’s really driving them—and how healing can happen together rather than apart.
Episode:
Therapy Truth: Everything is Grief
In this episode, Katie and Maddy explore how grief shows up everywhere — not just in the loss of a loved one, but in the loss of expectations, timelines, dreams, and identities. It’s the ache of realizing life didn’t go the way you imagined, the unraveling of who you thought you’d be, the divorce, the disappointment, the existential anxiety of being human. Grief isn’t one chapter of our story — it’s the thread running through all of it. And the sooner we see it, the more compassion we can bring to our own healing.